Understanding Equalizing Behavior — Why Neurodivergent Kids Always “Have to Get the Last Word” Why Autistic & ADHD Kids Seem to “Talk Back” After Being Corrected Ever correct your child—only to have them throw your mistake right back at you? That’s not defiance. That’s equalizing behavior—a brain’s fast-track attempt to restore fairness, especially in autistic and ADHD kids. To them, correction can feel like a power imbalance. And their reaction? Mimicking, pointing fingers, or “one-upping” isn’